Some Questions About Marriage

[pink puma]

SSA saab nu _/\_

Mere kohl thore jeh questions aa regarding sikh customs during marriage ceremonies.

Pehli gall... Pichle saal mere cousin da viah see india che. and jadon oh Canada nu vapas aaye, assi oh na di wedding video dekh di see, and jadon fehreh hunde see, mere cousin di mummy (my massi) othe nahi see. Assi massi ji nu puch ya vi thusi kyon nahi see gurdware? and oh kendeh vi ma puth diyan lavan nahi dekh di. Koi jaana menu eh gall please samja saakde? I dont understand why a mom isnt suppose to see her son's lavan. Is this something new because its the first time ive ever heard of such a thing.

Doosri gall... meri ek friend da viah see couple weeks ago and jadon kuri taan munda bethe see Guru Granth Sahib deh samne, Gurdware waale kehnde vi assi ek benthi kaarde vi kuri deh koi brothers please na utho. So they asked the girls brothers or guy cousins to remain seated and not help her around the Guru Granth Sahib during the lavan. However, the boys did not listen and they still got up and helped their sister. This is also the first time ive ever seen such a thing. Agge taan brothers always help karde apni sister nu. Do you think there is something wrong if brothers help? Eh gall kyon nahi pasand Gurdwaras nu? and for those of you in Punjab, do they do this over there too? Also, do you think this is fair?

Jaroor apne comment diyo, i just want to learn more about these customs and the reasons behind them.

Tank ju

lub,
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[lovable_mani]

1- one person told me in olden day, some one has to stay at home for welcoming the new member of family. that's y mom's stay at home.........

 

[Panjaban]

ssa ji,
Pehle question da answer ni pata yaar, mainu lagda jidda "lovable_mani" ne keha ke ghare rehnna hunda kise na kise nu isse karke tuhade massi ji ghare rahe hone, as it is an old custom ajj kall taa lokki palaces vich viaah karde ah, koi ni ghar rehnda.
Dooji gall jehri tusi aakhi ke lavaa velle kudi de bharaa kharre hunde ah, eh v ik purana hee custom ah, jadd kudiya khund kadd diya c, (ajj kall ni kadd diya) udo ohna nu moore dekhna aoukha hunda c iss karke ohde bharaa kharre hunde ohnu guide karan lai. Baaki eh hun ik rawaaj di taraa he ah, ajj takk challeya ah reha hai, hun pata ni jithey tusi oh viah dekhiya uthey granthis ne aidda kio keha. i think eh gallat ah kio ke saare apne apne tareeke naal reeti rawaaja nu tor de ah te je oh kudi de bharaa kharre hoye then its something they thought needed to be done, there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[munda_wakhre_type_da]

SSA saab nu _/\_

Mere kohl thore jeh questions aa regarding sikh customs during marriage ceremonies.

Pehli gall... Pichle saal mere cousin da viah see india che. and jadon oh Canada nu vapas aaye, assi oh na di wedding video dekh di see, and jadon fehreh hunde see, mere cousin di mummy (my massi) othe nahi see. Assi massi ji nu puch ya vi thusi kyon nahi see gurdware? and oh kendeh vi ma puth diyan lavan nahi dekh di. Koi jaana menu eh gall please samja saakde? I dont understand why a mom isnt suppose to see her son's lavan. Is this something new because its the first time ive ever heard of such a thing.

Doosri gall... meri ek friend da viah see couple weeks ago and jadon kuri taan munda bethe see Guru Granth Sahib deh samne, Gurdware waale kehnde vi assi ek benthi kaarde vi kuri deh koi brothers please na utho. So they asked the girls brothers or guy cousins to remain seated and not help her around the Guru Granth Sahib during the lavan. However, the boys did not listen and they still got up and helped their sister. This is also the first time ive ever seen such a thing. Agge taan brothers always help karde apni sister nu. Do you think there is something wrong if brothers help? Eh gall kyon nahi pasand Gurdwaras nu? and for those of you in Punjab, do they do this over there too? Also, do you think this is fair?

Jaroor apne comment diyo, i just want to learn more about these customs and the reasons behind them.

Tank ju

lub,
Pink

pele question da jawab ni pata ..main ta peli waar suneya



regardin 2nd one.. jinwe panjaban ji ne kea k pel kundd kad diya c ta dikhda ni c .. dat explains well bt i wud like to add on to it..

jinwe kudi munda lanavn lai uthde ne and j kudi de brothers v naal uthe kudi nu help karan taa ki hunda hai.. lanavn lende ne k guru ji de samne asin kuch oaths litiyan dat we will b together as husband wife hamesha.. bt j brothers v naal naal turan ge ta gal uthe hi aaagi its like brothers de v naal hi lanwan fere hoge kudi de..

hope me theek samjhaya and u get my point
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[jas_sandhu]

pehle que da ans eh hai ki ...purane samme ch munde da mummy tah chado keo v ghar di lady barat te nall nahi c jandi hundi..bas eh ravaj jeha c ohla rakhan da kudi valiyan toh...fir vehya toh badd agle din nuh apni sass nu pekke ghar nall leke jandi hundi c...fir kudi di mumy de munde di mumy di milni hundi c..par hun eda da kuj nahi hai.....


duje da jawab eda ki pehla kudain de vehya chooti umar ch hi kar dete jande c....so kudi vehya time aje niani hi hundi c ...tah karke revaj jeha banya hoya c kudi da veer ohnu ferre lain ch sahara deve.....
baki jehdi gall panjaban te gurri ne khi hai ohvi theek hai​

 

[pink puma]

thanks for all of your responses, it really helped clear up a lot of questions i had. Teh Guri ya i get what your saying and thats an understandable reason for why gurdware bhais dont want brothers to get up.

but fer vi paatha ni jadon naal naal brothers toor deh bhen nu farr k, menu bohat sweet lagda. shyad jaddon saade generation deh viah da time aauna eh rawaaj na hon