How To End A Relationship
"Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers." - Mary Tyler Moore
Relationships are complicated and even with all the good intentions sometimes you have to end a relationship. Gone are the days when we used to spend our life with only one person. Today we fall in and out of love all the time. There is so much been written on the people who are on the receiving end of a break-up, however we hardly notice the people who initiate the process. Mostly they are labeled as the stonehearted, mean and selfish. However all the people who dump their partners are not villains and vamps. People make mistakes of loving people whom they are not compatible to. Living with a mistake all your life is not a sensible option. There is only one life and living it in tears is not a right solution. So sometimes, it is necessary to walk out of a relationship. However, it is also very important to know how to end up a relationship to make it easier for both of you. Read on to know how to end up a relationship.
Ending A Relationship
One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend three times this year. Every time she decides to dump her boyfriend, she feels guilty and ends up patching up with him. They both are not happy and are dragging the relationship, which has been dead long ago. So if you have decided to end the relationship, be firm on your decision and stick to it. Remember the longer you drag the matter, the harder it will be for you.
When you are conveying your decision to the partner, be very clear of why you are ending the relationship. Although avoid hurting your partner with harsh words and uncomfortable truth. Be gentle and kind and convey him/her your decision. Choose a time when you two are alone as dumping in a public place may be embarrassing for both of you. Also never in any case dump through phone or e-mail.
Refrain From Blame-Game
When you decide to end a relationship, all you can see are the bad traits in your partner. However, remember that you fell in love with the same person at one point of time. Refrain from dumping all the blames on your partner for the failure of the relationship. It will only lead to a bitter end and will make it harder for both of you.
You need to be honest to yourself and to your partner. If you are leaving your partner and ending that relationship because you no longer love him/her, then convey these feelings to the partner gently. Be honest about your feelings.
Prepare For The Worst
How rational you may be, you never actually can foretell how your partner will react. There may be lots of crying, blame game, and even hurling abuses at each other. You partner may try to cling to you at the time. So prepare for the worst possible situation and donít lose your cool.