~Punjabi Wedding Rituals(Rasmaan)~

»SukhMani«

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~Wedding rituals(Rasmaan)~

Pre-Wedding Rituals


Rokka: In this ceremony, the boy and the girl commit to enter a wedlock, and won't consider any more matrimonial proposals. Ardaas is done, followed by exchange of gifts.


Mangni
: The Engagement. Usually very high profile. This when the boys' side of the family goes to the girls' side with gifts, jewellery, and other goods, to confirm the engagement.


Sagan: The main engagement. See Anand Karaj for more details in what events happen in this occasion.


Chunni Chadana
: When the boys side goes to the brides home, a day or two before the wedding, and take a red chunni and place it on her head, and also apply makeup, indoor, jewellery, mendhi, red nail polish, bindi and other accessories to symbolize her new life with her in laws.


Sangeet:Can be one day or many days, usually high profile in a banquet hall, ladies sings traditional Indian songs, and it is the Indian version of the western Bridal shower.


Mehandi: A night of mendhi, in the atmosphere of a party. The bride and other ladies get mendhi done, on their hands and feet. For the bride the mendhi is sent by the future Mother in Law.

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Rituals Observed on Wedding Day and Mayian:


Kund Paath Puja: This ceremony is optional, but is strongly suggested for a strong married life. It is a three-day prayer before all the other functions are to start. Here the Guru Granth Ji Sahib is present and read non-stop, and divas and incense is also lit. Guest can come whenever they wish, in the first two days of the prayer, but should be present on the last day of the prayer in the morning hours. It is done in the morning hours because Sikhs believe that the morning is the most peaceful time of the day. At this prayer, breakfast, lunch, and dinner are provided depending on when you are present at the prayer.


Chuda Ceremony
: This ceremony is performed by the maternal uncle and aunt (mama - mami) of the bride. The chuda which is a set of red and cream ivory bangles are touched by all present to signify their blessings and good wishes for the bride. The girl's maternal uncle and aunt, friends and cousins tie kaliras (silver, gold or gold plated traditional ornaments that are tied to the chuda). Before departing for her husband's home, the bride must tap one of her unwed female friends or cousins with her kaliras. According to popular belief, the one who is tapped thus will be the next one to marry.


Vatna: This ritual demands that the bride-to-be stay at home in her old clothes for a couple of days before her wedding. Before her bath, vatna (a paste of powdered turmeric and mustard oil) is applied on her body by female relatives and friends. Both, the ghara ghardoli and the vatna ceremonies are also performed for the groom at his house. Here the decorated pitcher of water (ghadoli) is brought for his bath by his bhabi (elder brother's wife).


Jaggo: The Jaggo ceremony is where the family dances and sings on the road in front and around the beautifully decorated wedding home. Jaggo is in the last hours of the night. They decorate copper vessels called "gaffers" with divas (clay lamps) and fill them with mustard oil and light them. The bride/bridegrooms maternal aunt (mammi) carries it on her head, and another lady will have a long stick with bells, and she will be shaking it. The ladies will then go into other friends and families homes and be welcomed by sweets and drinks, they will then dance there and move on. It is a loud ceremony, filled with joy, dancing, fireworks, and food. And if the family wishes the ladies' sangeet (ladies night of singing) and mendhi will follow the mayian and dinner.

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Anand Karaj

Sarbala: A young nephew or cousin also dons similar attire. He is called the sarbala (caretaker of the groom) and accompanies him .

Sehrabandi: his relatives bless his sehra or turban.

Varna: The groom's bhabi lines his eyes with surma (kohl). After this, the groom's sisters and cousins feed and decorate his mare. varna, a ceremony that is supposed to ward off the evil eye. The cash is given away to the poor.

Milni: (means "Introductions") The Ardas is performed by the priest (Giani) followed by the formal introductions of the main male players in the families. Example is both eldest Chachas (father's younger brother) will come together and exchange garlands of flowers and money. After or during the wedding, ladies will do the same thing, but a much smaller affair.

Jaimala: After Milni, the bride and groom come in the middle of the circle where the family is standing, and place a heavily made garland made of flowers on each other to state, they accept each other and will love and live together with one and other.

Kanyadaan:
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Pheress/Lavan: Depending on a Hindu Punjabi Wedding or Sikh Wedding, the Bride and Groom will walk in tow around the Guru Granth Sahib four times at the set intervals, if Sikh and if Hindu around the Agni, (sacred fire seven times. Sikhs
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Juta chhupai
: This is when the girl's young relatives grab the groom's untended shoes and hide it away to be returned after the ceremony for a fee which is Kalecharis of gold for the bride's sisters and of silver for her cousins. This joyful custom is called juta chhupai.

 

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Vidaai/Doli: Vidaai marks the departure of the bride from her parental house. As a custom, the bride throws phulian or puffed rice over her head. The ritual conveys her good wishes for her parents. Her brother’s accompanies the bride. Her relatives throw coins in the wake of this procession.

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»SukhMani«

*Nirbhau Nirvair*

Rituals Observed at the Groom's House:

Pani bharna: The groom's mother performs the traditional aarti with a pitcher of water. She makes seven attempts to drink the water from the pitcher. The groom must allow her to succeed only at the seventh attempt. The bride must, with her right foot, kick the mustard oil that is put on the sides of the entrance door before she enters the house.

Phera Dalna: the newly weds visit the bride's parents on the day after the wedding. The bride’s brother usually fetches them.

Overall
Everyone participating is fair game for leg pulling including the mother-in -law , priests , the boy , and all relatives . An over doze of food, liquor (where acceptable), dhol music, and mirth generally pervades
 

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